Monday, December 14, 2009

Why the Japanese say "I'm sorry" instead of "Thank you"

"...during my early days in America, when a psychiatrist who was my supervisor did me some kindness or other - I have forgotten exactly what, but it was something quite trivial. Either way, feeling the need to say something, I produced not "thank you," as one might expect, but "I'm sorry." "What are you sorry for?" he replied promptly, giving me an odd look. I was highly embarrassed. My difficulty in saying "thank you" arose, I imagine, from a feeling that it implied too great an equality with someone who was in fact my superior."

Takeo Doi: The Anatomy of Dependence

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